Alright this post is going to need some context: I am 28 FTM, my husband (my child’s step father) is 31 FTM. My ex husband and I have been divorced since 2016. We divorced for a large number of reasons but one of the primary reasons is the person who he would later marry and is now his wife and mother of his son (my daughter’s half-brother). They treat their son like a golden child and let him have anything and everything that he wants which also includes anything that my daughter already has. Which is one of the reason she can’t take her things from house to house anymore. Ontop of this my daughter is actively discouraged from expressing any kind of real emotion in their presence. My daughter has ADHD, autism, and GAD. Her father (my ex husband) also has ADHD and GAD so you would think that would make him more empathetic to the struggles of a kid with a neurodivergent mind. But it doesn’t. They have repeatedly called her dramatic to her face and even berated her to tell her that she needs to stop crying when she has very little abilities to regulate her emotions properly. She is getting a lot better but it takes her time and it takes patience and they don’t have that. But I have tried to coach them. Tried to give them tips, give them insight, and help them understand how they can help her when it gets bad (because everyone has bad days you just need to learn how to navigate them). And it came to a head when my daughter was talking with my father about overhearing her step-mother say “I can’t stand it when she cries” - while she was in active distress. She was crying so hard she couldn’t breath and all she could think about was herself… which made my kiddo feel worse. She feels her emotions are a burden on other and I can’t stand when other people make her feel that way. And her step-mother is a very angry person. She yells, shouts, and her primary language is fighting. So when my daughter is over there the majority of what she hears is fighting. So when she said this I was angry and unsurprised but still wanted to give them the benefit of the doubt. So I messaged them and asked them about it directly. Both of them messaged me back and continued to call my daughter dramatic and that she was over exaggerating the situation but her step mother did admit to saying it. I was so furious I sent them a long message about how dare they call a child dramatic when they can’t even handle their own emotions when faced with a problem. I did tell them I appreciated their context though because I would need it for when I explained what happened to her therapist. But then I set a firm boundary that they need to stop calling my daughter dramatic, especially to her face, and that the conversation is now over because it is serving no one for us to continue. They then violated my boundary by continuing to message me and even asked me for advice which I refused to answer because at this point I cannot and should not be expected to help them but.. AITA?