Obligatory apology for mobile and how long this is.

So, it was my 30th birthday not too long ago(couple weeks), and my partner and his partner (we are polyamorous and I am good friends with her) thew me a suprise party. I had never had a suprise party before and was not expecting this at all. Turns out, I'm not a fan. It was definitely nice to see all my friends and the decorations and the food was great, but I definitely got over-peopled as I wasn't expecting to have to be social after work. But that's honestly not why I hated the party. And I don't blame my partner for not knowing I wouldn't like the suprise part of the party. What bugs me is really the aftermath.

So, I have two cats. One is a happy social girl, but she is known to get into any food or drink you leave out. The other is afraid of people, loud noises, ect. So both girls were locked in my bedroom for the party. My little cat cried all night, partially cause she wanted out of my room, and partially because she was scared of all the noise. So when I finally went to bed still drunk/hungover, I sat with her to try and calm her. Didn't help at all. I ended up getting up after everyone had gone to bed to clean up from the party so I could let them out of the room. The house was a mess and I spent a good hour quietly cleaning so I could get the cats settled. If I hadn't cleaned I would not have been able to sleep at all (she has a super ear piercing meow so I couldn't have her stay in my room, and her sister would have gotten into everything if I had let them out.) Basically no thought was put into what happened after the party and I had to clean it all up. I also got no sleep that night mostly due to cats.

It's been weeks now and the streamers are still up on the ceiling and some decorations I didn't get stop still haven't been put away. My partner's partner did the dishes a few days after the party, so at least I didn't have to do that. But it looks like I will have to be the one to finish cleaning everything up. I'm really upset that I had to do all that cleaning for a party that was mine, and that I honestly didn't want. The party itself was nice, but I really only wanted a quiet night in with the three of us.

I'm not sure how to approach the situation without being the AH, as they clearly put so much thought and love into the party itself. So how can I bring this up without being TA?