Backstory: Guy I’ve been seeing for about 5 months, loans me his Flatmates laptop to use for uni. Mind, she doesn’t know this - and he’s lied, saying he was using it for work to get her to give it to him. Thing is, I only agreed to use the laptop because at this time it was 4am getting back from uni - and I had a deadline the next day and I didn’t have anything else to use. I could have stayed at uni the whole night to get it done but he said it was ok to use hers.

On this day, I’d planned to work at night with the laptop, for a tight deadline, but ended up falling asleep cuz I hadn’t gotten any the two days before and woke up late with PowerPoint unfinished. Had to rush out very quickly and took laptop to work on the car on the way hoping to return it immediately after.

Mind - I realise now a text to say this or waking him up to let him know should have been sent. I go to uni, to present and it goes really. My mood is off for the day and I’m not clear headed and feel a bit down. I remember I have laptop & need to get it back. So I check phone to go home or call Guy and my phone is dead.

Conveniently, I’d left my charger at Guys rushing out, and my friend doesn’t have hers on her either. It’s a 40 minute walk to Guy - but he is at work now and I have no access to my money to pay because I only use my phone, no card on me. And no access to google maps to navigate home which is an hour away. I also can’t message or call anymore. My friend and I decided to go into town for a bit and walk to hers eventually. We end up spending an hour or so there and then go to hers.

(This part upsets me as it’s something I’m dealing with and about to get meds for, but I have ADHD and poor short term memory so key things at the top of my mind don’t tend to stay there. This affects my eating and working as well.) Mind that it was my brothers birthday and this affected me not calling him today.

At friends house, I completely forget to charge my phone. I only remember as I’m about to leave and then ask her for a charger. Phone charges up and I see that Guy has tried called me twice with a text going, call me once you see this. I call him back and he’s crying hysterically saying Flatmate thinks I stole his laptop and that I’m going to ghost him (as I hadn’t responded to his messages as my phone was dead).

I calm him down, and say that I’ll go to her house with the laptop to sort out the situation. I know it will be some sort of altercation. So I take a cab there, ring the bell, get in and I’m able to hand it to her. She then says that she has a few things to say. Says how as far as she’s concerned I stole her laptop, and treat Guy like shit as he’s been in a state all day. Says I could have bought a charger (I wasn’t able to, as I didn’t have money and I only use my phone google pay for payments), Gone back home (I lived an hour away and couldn’t navigate without a map by walking), or gotten one from somewhere (I asked the people I could, and no one had had one). I’m also at fault for forgetting but I will be medicated soon. I can’t always help it and forget crucially important things for me too.

She Says the respect or trust she has for me as little as it was, is gone and that I’m not welcome in the flat, then asks me in to pack my things from Guys room and tells me to leave. I apologised for taking the laptop as that was 100% my fault, and I intended to return it. I don’t know how to view this situation. I know I was wrong for taking the laptop and hate that I forgot, but I don’t know about everything else.

Edit: YTA. i.e me It is my fault and i should have returned it earlier or taken care of it better. Everyone was worried and I don't blame them.