My father and I have always had a rocky history with him cheating on my mother and always fat shaming me and my older sister. Then he and my mom divorced which shattered our family, he was a broken man for many years and would always lash out at me and my sister and mom blaming us for his mistakes. Anyway, my dad and I got in a huge fight back in June because he was mad at me for still being unemployed after I was laid off a month prior. Flash forward to November and we managed to “patch things up” over the months since by forgetting it ever happened and he wanted me to come by for Thanksgiving I was reluctant cause I can only stand him for like an hour at a time but I heard my grandparents were going to be there so I agreed. My older sister was going as well who notoriously has the most issues with him but for some reason she was really giddy about going.

About 2 hours before we should have been leaving I had a terrible anxiety flare up I was terrified they’d bother me about my unemployment and shame me for my appearance making me feel like shit for the coming days. I told my little sister and mom I wasn’t going and my little sister said she’s fine with it. After a while my older sister calls me and asks where I am and I told her what happened. She proceeds to call my mom and blames her for my feelings and proceeds to rub every mistake she made over the last several years in her face making her upset and in tears. Then she calls me up and I tell her I’m not going to support my abuser even on Thanksgiving then she proceeds to tell me to grow up and forgive him which is extremely out of character for her cause she was always the one starting shit with him. I feel horrible my moms still crying hours later and my older sisters blocked me I feel like I single-handedly ruined the holidays for my family.