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So me and my wife have been having a recurring argument recently and one of her things is she spends all her time with the baby and I never help out. In my mind it has actually been the exact opposite that I spend more time doing things with the baby than her. I have been off work for almost a year due to health issues and then a major surgery. Before the surgery and since being cleared by my Dr to return to normal activity I have been getting up with the baby in the morning at least 5 days a week and she sleeps in. I put LO to bed myself most nights. Do the majority of the feedings. Etc. I feel I help out with the baby better than half while also trying to return to work and trying to start my own business which she supports me doing. I cook, I clean, I help out around the house. I’m doing the best I can but I feel like it’s not being noticed.

I have considered starting a daily spreadsheet on my phone of who does what every day to shut down her constantly telling me she does everything and I don’t help. WIBTA for doing this and then in a month show her the reality of the situation?

ETA: I do not in any way have a problem doing the amount of work I’m doing. I have a problem being told I’m not doing things. I love my baby and soaking up as much time as possible with her

This is not either of our first children. It is our first together but not either of our first born. LO is now 17 months old and I have so much fun with baby.

I have tried communicating my thoughts about all this but she has basically refused to acknowledge what I do. Tracking things is my last resort point.

I would love to go to marital counseling together but she doesn’t believe in therapy.