So some backstory I 32F him 25M. We met on a video game. We werent suppose to be room mates. He was visiting on the premise of helping me fix some parts of my house. (I have been living alone and fixing up a house during ALL of covid and I am not very handy and pretty small) We did get a good amount done, ripped up a lot of carpet etc. However it turned into him telling me about his home life. I, in good conscious, could not let him go back to the abusive household he was coming from. (He could have been killed) We made a deal that he could live here if he helped with chores and helped with actually fixing my house. He would start looking for a job immediately and then when he gets a job he would pay 75% of the utilities as I get actual fixes done on the house, buying much needed appliances, and even paying for all of our food. I figured he would find a job, and he could get back on his feet and then move out.

Now onto the actual issue. I about a month in noticed that he forgets lot. At first I thought it was just he got distracted from time to time. It quickly got scary with him forgetting he was cooking on multiple occassions. He has even left the house with the oven on. He will forget I have asked him to do things almost immediately after me asking him or I will tell him not to do something and he will do it 15 mins after us having full fledged conversations. He has only gotten a part time job and seems to have no intentions of trying to find full time. We had a conversation on how concerned I am about this issue multiple times. I had to urge him to go to a PCP doctor and he eventually did after me having to basically look everything up. His PCP only treated for some anxiety and refered him to get a mental health check up. It's been well over a month and he hasnt done it. It's stressing me out because he isn't doing the things he is suppose to. He only cleans if things pile up or I get upset about it. He isn't helping to fix anything in the house and it's starting to feel like I am just getting used. He has started paying but he only works part time... so I feel guilty taking most of his money. But at this point I am pretty drained financially from having to pay for utilities for two people and feeding the both of us as well.

I don't want to get into specific instances... but I sure as hell can. He has made terrible messes int he house and left them there... he has also caused me so much anxiety and stress beyond the normal new room mate deal that I sometimes feel sick to my tummy and don't want to leave my room...in my own house. I feel disrespected and used... but also guilty at the same time.

So aita for telling him to schedule the psych eval or he needs to leave? This COULD be a serious problem... but it also could be I am being used.

(If you need some details, please feel free to ask. I am not sure what I should really say as to the things he has done.)