So, I come from a pretty well off family. And, I was raised to know that when given nice things, I should take care of them and extend the kindnesses I am given however I can (which I love doing). And also to never actually refuse to share, ESPECIALLY the big things that would provide a lot of happiness to others.

My grandparents are by far the most “comfortable” of the family and have always loved to spoil their grandkids. I am always so thankful for their gifts and the time I get with them. My grandfather and I have shared our love of books since I was old enough to read and my grandmother and I share our own “things” as well like fashion and cooking/baking. I really love and cherish my grandparents and I do my best to make sure they know that.

Their biggest gift to me so far (and the one that I am still happily saying thank you for even though I haven’t even received it) is a trip to Europe. They surprised me with it as a graduation present for finishing up high school and due to covid as well as other scheduling conflicts, we haven’t been able to go. I think about this trip all the time and I’m SO excited for it. At one point, there was talk of another family member joining us and talking with me I said that I really wanted this trip to be just the three of us since I’ll probably never get the chance to have a trip like this with them ever again.

So here’s the heart of my dilemma: my mom really wants to go with us. I’ve spoken to her about it once before saying that, again, I kind of just wanted it to be my grandparents and I since it would be such a special trip. But now she brings up how much fun it would be if she went too and how much she’d love to go. It’s starting to stray into the territory of her talking about it like she’s going with us.

I know I should’ve been more firm but now we’re going closer to actually being able to schedule the trip and my grandparents are saying that I need to talk to her about it because “she thinks she’s going, (my name)”. I guess she must have forgotten about the conversation I had with her and it’s not that I just HATE the idea of her coming along but I’ve said multiple times about how I can’t wait to make those memories with my grandparents.

I feel like it would be really selfish of me to say she couldn’t go too, especially because she’s never gotten to take a trip like this and because I now know how much she wants to go. Her and I don’t always see eye to eye (to put it nicely) and, if I’m being completely honest, deep down I really don’t want to deal with the stress of her coming on this trip. But I kinda feel like a trip to Europe is something I should share with her.

WIBTA if I told my mom (again) that I wanted the trip to just be my grandparents and I?