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For some background, I (29F) have been working to get some mental health struggles controlled. One of the important factors I have long needed is for my home or living space to be a controlled environment, somewhere I am comfortable enough to be myself in all my struggles, and not feel like I have to entertain others for extended periods.

FIL got laid off in late 2020. Had a hard time finding more work, but eventually settled for a job near my husband and I. In-laws lives on the other side of the state about 4 hours away. This new job was always meant to be until he could find suitable work near home.

At first, FIL was living in a hotel. It became tough on him living in a hotel, and my husband decided to invite him to stay at our house nearby. I agreed, but admittedly thought it would be for maybe a week. So did my husband. That’s now been 2 months. No discussion was ever had as to how long he was welcome, as my husband felt like it was his duty to open his home to his dad.

My FIL is a perfectly nice guy, but likes to be involved in our lives while home. He likes to help parent our child and clean our house. Its driving me insane. My mental health has noticeably gotten worse in his time with us. Home just doesnt feel like I can fully relax with constant company over.

Last week, FIL put his two week notice into his job, meaning we finally have an ending in sight. However, I am at a breaking point. I need my home back to myself and my family. I feel angry every time I see my FIL, just at the fact that he is still at my house. My anxiety is sky high all day knowing I am coming home from work to him being there.

My husband and I are at odds with how to handle it. He believes that since it’s only about a week longer, I can just suck it up and let him stay. He thinks I am being rude for not being welcoming. I want my husband to ask my FIL to stay at a hotel for his remaining time. I need to feel comfortable in my home, and I need this space to be healing for my mental health, not anxiety inducing. I feel like I am in a crappy spot, either being the AH for not being welcoming, or sacrificing my mental health for someone else to be comfortable.