Hey all. First time poster here. Background - I'm closer to the grandparents on my mother's side than on my father's. My grandfather on my mother's side has had reoccurring bouts of cancer and four years ago is the most recent flare up. It's mostly been in his lungs. About 2 years ago he stopped taking chemo. My fiancé and I moved the wedding up so that he could come in hopes that he would last til then. He did, though his mobility progressively got worse and he was in and out if physical rehab until my grandmother moved him to a nursing home in October/November last year. I would make it a point to visit once or twice every week til Covid came around. He wasn't ever talkative but it was about just being around him even if he was resting. Since March the procedure for the nursing home has been that we can see the residents through the window they have in front. I haven't been to visit because he very rarely speaks and I feel like it would be like going to the zoo. Now my mother is pushing for me to go visit him because she thinks that it may be near the end now that the cancer has spread to his spine and a couple other organs. My grandmother hasn't pushed at all and I've done my best to help her around the house and make sure she's not felt alone. She did say that what the family is doing now isn't wrong and that if it does look like it'll be the end she says we'll be able to say goodbye in the hospital since she's able to get a private room apparently(?). My question is, would I be the asshole since I don't want to just talk to him like a zoo animal while he stares at me or doesn't listen?