Ok so im probably the asshole but lets see what strangers think.

So little background context. I've always been a bit of a loner. Unless i am in an active relationship or have known someone a long time and even then. I don't always respond in a timely manner unless its an emergency. (Parents and best friend of 30 years are tbe exception)

A few weeks ago this girl asked me out on a date to one of my favorite movies and i accepted. We text semi often cause its the weekend and then once the week starts I kinda slow it down because hey work. I still text her just not at the same pace as her.

Fast forward the week before the date , an outbreak of covid happens and im put in quarinteen for 2 weeks, naturally i tell her (since you know im potentially exposed) and we cancel for what i thought we agreed was health reasons.

In those 2 weeks we don't text as often, my excuse being my mind was kinda focused on hopefully not dying. She tells me she is disappointed but understands .

Within that same week i had a mental break down, between another relationship collapse , my mom being elder and Ill, work and kinda just all around feeling overwhelmed , i cut the world off to only a few people.

She did text me but i didn't respond because because like I said. I just needed to be alone.

Anyways that was maybe a week ago.

Today i see a FB vauge post about unintentional hurting her do too ignoring . i knew it was aimed at me so i thought about what i wanted to say and essentially said

"You are a good person, i honestly am not in a good mental headspace to be in something romantic. And i need to figure out somethings for myself"

Anyways she responses saying

"You’ve unintentionally hurt me a lot. I’m someone that needs constant communication so not responding is one of the worst things anyone can do to me.

I felt like the date was something I was more interested in than you were from the beginning.

There’s a lot more things I want to say but also things I probably shouldn’t. So all I’ll say is I appreciate your apology and I hope you find what you’re looking for."

So am i the asshole? I feel like i am