So throwaway account.

I've recently started dating this guy - Andy for about six months. His best friends are Felicity and Jacob and they've all been friends for over ten years. Andy and Felicity are very close - and I mean very close. They go to one another for everything, they meet up two days of the week and they text 24/7. At first, I tried to not think anything of it as I knew they were friends but I didn't realize they were that close. I've questioned it before - thinking that surely there was something between them prior. He laughed and said that nothing has ever happened between them, that Felicity and Jacob were always a thing. He also said that they went through a lot of things during high school and that she was his person during really rocky periods in his life and they're each other's support systems. I'll be honest, their closeness does make me feel uncomfortable and I feel that it often interrupts our relationship.

Fast forward to now, Andy is the best man so he's often busy helping with wedding planning, etc. One night I was invited to drinks and I was then made aware that Andy offered to walk Felicity down the aisle, confused I asked why wasn't her father walking her down. Felicity said that he passed away and that originally her cousin was walking her down but he lived interstate and was unable to travel due to borders being shut.

When we got home I asked Andy why didn't he tell me or even ask if I was okay with it. He replied that he didn't have the time to tell me as it was arranged literally moments before we went out to drinks and he asked why wouldn't I have been okay with it. I told him that I was slightly uncomfortable by the closeness of their relationship and I often felt he prioritized their friendship over our relationship. That the last couple of weeks I felt that I wasn't given as much attention as Felicity had been receiving and I didn't really understand why he was the one to be walking her down the aisle.

He said that he was very close to her dad and that Felicity is a very important person in his life and she shaped him to be the person he is today and that she's done so much for him that he wanted to do this for her. He said that I shouldn't feel uncomfortable and that he hadn't meant to make me feel that way. He stated that their friendship was important just as much as our relationship. I got angry by this as I felt he wasn't understanding my perspective at all, I said that he clearly thinks I'm of less importance compared to her and that he wasn't taking my feelings into consideration. I told him I was uncomfortable by it and out of respect for me, he should at least just stick to being the best man and perhaps find someone else to do the job. He said that I should be respecting his decision to do this for Felicity and that she doesn't have anyone else to do this for her. I ended up dropping the conversation out of frustration and I don't know if I'm being the ass in this situation.