My wife (33f) and I (33m) met in college have been married for a while and have a pretty great relationship in general. In college, I was in excellent shape and regularly competed in bodybuilding physique competitions, with my body fat percentage varying between 8-12% on and off season. My wife hasn't really been into the fitness thing, but I respect that because it isn't everybody's thing.

Well we moved across the country for a new job (all me, mostly, she flew in when I was done), and it's been pretty stressful. Fitness is important to me, but I don't know, I'm tired of competing now and making personal meals out of boiled chicken and cottage cheese. Since my new job is mostly office work I'd say that right now I'm probably at 18-22% body fat. I don't feel overweight, I meal prep, and lift or run almost every day.

For whatever reason though, my wife started to comment a lot on my weight. For the past year, Everytime I'm not eating something really lean she'll comment about how the meal will make it difficult for me to get back into physique competitions (I've told her I'm not doing them anymore), on cheat days she'll comment on how good I used to look, or during sex she'll tell me about how it was so much better during the college days.

It got to a point where eating meals together made me uncomfortable. I've tried to eat only before it after her, but it reached a head last night. When she made another comment about how I was looking "fluffier" during dinner together, I kind of unloaded on her. I told her I was tired about her constant nagging, about how I never understood her lack of motivation for fitness, that I have been and still was in better shape than her, and that in spite of the metabolism and "Asian genetics" (her words, not mine) she had so much pride in, she'd put on some pounds too, and I didn't want to hear any of her hypocritical crap anymore.

She called me names, I slept on the couch, and we haven't talked since. So I ask you, AITA here or not?