Moved to a major city a few years back with my girlfriend and have never visited home since. My girlfriend and I were together for a year before moving together, so everyone who knows us, knows that we've been serious for quite some time. Friends on both sides want to visit and we've been excited to host in a fun place and enjoy the city together.

Let's call my old pal Stinky. Stinky visited the first year we moved here, and was one of the two close friends I had back home who was actually able to make it. Everything was fine and now discussions about ol' Stinky making this an annual pilgrimage have begun.

No idea what preempted Stinky to say it, but during a conversation where I tried to accommodate his bachelorhood, he decided to say, "I'm going to drop a bomb: I would fuck the shit out of your girlfriend. But..."

I immediately dropped the phone and started cursing. What a fucking buffoon. You can't put the genie back in the bottle after saying something like that. But I had to hear the rest before immediately burning the bridge in a first rage.

"...But I wouldn't do that because of your thing. She's really pretty and you should stick with her for a long time."

All I could muster in my shock was, "I hope you wouldn't, friend"

Awkwardly wrapped up the conversation and immediately told my girlfriend. She apologized to me... Which is kind of heartbreaking and what she said next, "You were the first guy I've been with who hasn't dealt with something like this... Until now. It's funny how guys think I don't get a choice in who fucks me" -- sorry, ladies, I have no concept of what dealing with this bullshit must be like, but I hate it for ya'll.

So I slept on it. Although it wasn't easy to get to sleep because I felt such a deep betrayal. Woke up and shot Stinky a text cancelling his vacation to stay here. Told him my only regret was trying to be cool when what I should have done is call him out on his shit immediately.

Girlfriend is beyond cool and told me it was my choice after I told her she had the final say on whether or not anyone stays in a home that is equally hers. I have zero concerns about her loyalty -- I just don't want her feeling objectified, even if it was something said privately, which still massively breached bro code.

TLDR: Old friend casually says, "I would fuck the shit out of your girlfriend, but I wouldn't because of your [relationship]" as some unwarranted approval. I cancel plans for him to vacation and visit my girlfriend and I in our home. AITA for effectively ending a friendship?