I’m on mobile, so if there are formatting issues, sorry.

For starters, I’m a PM for a large contractor in CA. I regularly make residential visits for inspections. In today’s case, I was in the bay area of CA, in a neighborhood where crime is a bit higher than other neighborhoods. I arrived ten minutes early, as I always do, and parked on the street in front of the home in which I had an appointment. The clients agent had not yet arrived, to kill time, I began to respond to some work emails on my phone. I had the feeling I was being watched, so I looked up, and right there at my drivers side window was a young woman, just standing there, staring at me. Smoking. (Not particularly relevant. I’m an ex-smoker, I typically tried not to invade peoples space while I smoked).

I rolled the window down and asked a bit apprehensively if I could help her, and from the get go she was a bit animus and hostile:

Her: “Who are you?!”

Me: “my name is X, again, can I help you?”

Her: “uh, I’m a resident of this neighborhood and I’m asking who you are”

Me: “I’m a contractor, and I have an appointment at this home”

Her: “this home? This home is vacant”

Me: “that might explain why my appointment is with a realtor...”

Her: “people have been breaking into homes here and I don’t believe you, show me your identification”

Me: “ absolutely not. You can have one of my business cards if it makes you feel safer”

Her: “just forget it, I’m not the cops and you’re obviously going to be a dick about this. I can’t make you “

Me: “that’s correct”

At that time, my clients agent arrived, and the hostile resident began shaking her head, muttering something inaudible and walking away. I grabbed my tools and clipboard, stepped out of my truck, and hostile resident looks back at me from across the street.

At this time I asked “is this sufficient proof?”

To which she responded “you’d feel differently if it was your home being broken in to”

I said “you’re right, but I also wouldn’t immediately and rudely accuse every unfamiliar individual I see”

Her final comment struck me off guard “oh so now you’re going to be a typical white male and brutalize me? Fuck you”

I get her position, if she’s being truthful anyway. But I believe she didn’t do herself any favors in being an absolute dick in the way she decided to ask. If she had been civil at all, I may have even obliged her request for ID, but given her accusatory and hostile tone from the on-set, I wasn’t in any mood to actually comply.

AITA?