I currently have a girlfriend and I love her to death. My ex left me after 3 years of relationship. I tried in every way to maintain at least a frienship, the basis of what was our relationship as people, before being engaged. So, a few weeks back, while I'm taken by my current girlfriend, she (my ex) sent me a very long message, basically saying she was sorry how she acted and she, too, wanted to maintain the friendship we lost. Some necessary context: I've always been the one on the receiving end of the breakup, I've been mistreated in some way, shape or form in all my serious past relationship... and she, my last ex, is the ONLY ONE that actually apologized for that. I couldn't not appreciate that, plus, after some days of assessment, we got back on friendly term.

My current girlfriend told me she's jealous. I reassured her in every way possible with the fact that I DO NOT WANT to go back to my ex, I DO NOT WANT to start having my ex as a girlfriend again. And I don't. The same problems we had before would just resurface, even if I had feelings for her (and I don't).

She said "okay, I trust you, I won't ask you to stop hearing from her".

A few weeks pass and she goes back on that, asking me to do just that because it makes her feel paranoid. Since there's no reason for said paranoia, I said no. My reasoning is as follows: I would never ask anyone to stop talking to someone just because I personally have a problem with that. Plus, even if it's not said outright, it kind of hurts me to think she doesn't trust me. To be fair she did have relationship issues in the past, but so did I. Hers were so bad she was jealous of a fictional character at some point. But, and again I quote something I said, "I can't tailor my friendships around your needs, and neither should you if I ever asked something like this, which I won't".

So.

AITA?

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Last minute edit, something I remembered I should have written but forgot: the split second I started talking to my ex again, I told my current gf. I told my friends, too. Everyone knows, it wasn't something I hid. Pointing this out just in case someone (understandably) asks for this very obvious info.