This happened at our staff Christmas party but is still bothering me.

For clarity, I've been happily married for 14 years and have 3 beautiful daughters who I love very much. My wife loves to dance and I hate dancing (important).

Also the party is for staff only, no spouses/partners permitted.

The staff party went well, I'd been hanging out with a few colleagues who know not to ask me to dance. I've had a few drinks, but am still comparitively sober and am thinking it'll soon be time to head home. I head to the drinks bar nearest the exit for one last glass before leaving.

While I'm there, an intern (roughly half my 44 years of age) approaches me with someone quite high up in the HR team and asks me to dance. I politely decline. She asks again, taking, I guess, my refusal for shyness (I am quite shy, but not especially introverted). I again refuse, stating that I don't even dance with my own wife, I'm not going to dance with her. She asks yet again. I very abruptly tell her to stop bothering me as it's just not going to happen. She leaves, her and the HR lady staring daggers at me.

Fast forward to January. I have to spend a lot of time on the intern's floor and each day I'm there she's giving me death eyes. I speak to her alone and apologise for upsetting or offending her as it wasn't my intention. She says it's fine.

February and March, still coldness and death eyes. I ask if we're okay. She doesn't want to talk to me because I was rude and hurt her feelings. So I've not made any more attempts to smooth things over and just put up with constant looks of contempt.

Am I the Asshole?