Not sure if 100% belongs here but not sure where else to post it. please let me know if it should go somewhere else. So a bit of back story to start. When I was a kid I did Jiu Jitsu and loved it. Every since I started I wanted to teach. Obviously eventually I passed all the courses and got to teach. I taught through my last 2 years of high school and a bit of Uni until I couldn't keep it up anymore due to other commitments and money constraints.

Most kids where good a few problem ones here and there but this one kid (here by know as little asshole or LA) was especially tough. LA never listened he argued with all the instructors and even had a few reports of bullying other kids which is a big no from us. We had multiple chats with his parents (who thought their LA child was the second coming of Jesus btw) and did not allow him to work with other specific students.

Well one day I am on the mat teaching I see this LA just start to yell at another child. LA hit him right in the face, blood sprayed from the other kids noise. As fucked as it is I have to give LA credit for great form on his punch. I run over and of course the whole class hears the kid crying so I tell them to get back to training and have another instructor on the mat with me take the kid off to get cleaned up and make sure he is ok. I turn to LA and tell him to immediately get off the mat he was done training for the day and that I and Shihan ( head of the school) will be talking with him and his parents later.

Now these kids where around 11-13 most of them had little annoying things about them as most kids do when that age and going through changes. This one however I was just dumbfounded by.

He goes off the mat and I get back to teaching. It is maybe 2 minutes later and I see LA's mom standing at the edge of the mat giving me stares that could cut rocks and when I finally notice her she beckons me over.

"How dare you tell my son to get off the mat! I pay good money to have him here and learn from all of you."
me: "Mis LA's mom last name, your son punched another kid in the face and caused him to bleed, my first concern is the safety of all students and I cannot allow your son on the mat if he is going to put students in jeopardy like that."

LA mom: " All you instructors have done is pick on my little boy, I want to see Shihan Now"

I tell her I have to finish this class then we can go see Shihan after. She agrees surprisingly and I finish the class. I go see Shihan in his office and tell him everything that had happened. He goes and gets LA and his mom.

She sits down and right away starts into how I am denying her son the lessons she had paid for and that I am specifically singling her son out in front of all other kids.

now some of you may be wondering.."did she not see what happened?" well she is what we call a sleeper parent. Any parent who drops their kid off and just sits on their phone, or ipad, computer, book etc. and could be bother to look up even once.

Shihan simply said that we cannot allow students who physically or mentally abuse other students in any way on our mat and that if she didn't like she was free to cancel her membership and leave.

She did cancel her membership and said she was going to another place in town, which we called and warned. All the clubs where pretty close in that way.

As she left she shot me some more evil looks and was telling her son it was all going to be ok.

Am I the Asshole for denying this kid the right the train?

the kid that was punched was fine thankfully, a bit bruised but nothing broken.

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