Ok so I'll be honest I 34 F have always had a bit of a strained relationship with my in-laws particularly my MIL but today really got to me. My son just turned 9 today and every year we always celebrate his birthday on his actual birthday because honestly no matter what day it falls on a b-day two days before Christmas is always going to be rough to get people to come to.

My husband currently works for his parents company (he's almost out of there as he is leaving in a few months but they currently work him to the bone) and despite it being their only grandchild's birthday they would not let him off work and made him come in which fine whatever but then my MIL flipped out when he informed them he wasn't going to her office holiday party after work because he was going to his son's birthday party. BTW they were invited. I never snub them a invitation to their grandkids birthday. They declined and my MIL decided to plan her office holiday party on her again ONLY grandchild's birthday at the exact same time. My husband's grandmother was the only member of his family to come to his son's birthday or even call and wish him a happy birthday. Now my MIL is reaching out to make sure we're going to attend her morning Christmas gathering early in the morning.

My Grandmother-In-Law is a angel and I love her very much and so does my husband and my son. WIBTA if I ditched Christmas at my Mother-In-Laws (where we normally all gather) and just went to my Grandmother-In-Laws early in the morning instead before we went to see my parents?