I’ll try to keep it short. Just because it doesn’t seem like a huge deal to me, But I’m just a little worried by her reaction that it may be a larger deal than it seems.

Ive worked 7 days a week for about 2 years now. I don’t get much time off and since my jobs center around an experience of some sort, they’re typically open on holidays like Christmas and New Years. About a week or two ago, I was on the phone with my dad, he asked what I’d be doing for new years (which I haven’t spent with him and my family in about 2 years because of my work) and I told him I’d be glad to call off the day to go home and spend that time with him and the family. ok ok enough about me.

My girlfriend sent me a couple texts while I was at work yesterday, telling me she wanted to spend new years with me as a couple since last year we did it purely as friends. Distracted from work, I replied saying that sounded like a great idea. Which I realize is how I messed up in this regard, I should’ve been paying more attention, but I want to raise the defense that my responses were between many customer interactions through out an extremely busy day, so my attention was just not all there. Later that night, she calls me and in our conversation she asks me about new years, I realized my scheduling contradiction and told her that I told my dad I’d go to see him and the family (about an hour north of me) and told my girlfriend she is very welcome to come with me. She got short in her responses and told me she didn’t want to come with me because she believes my family (who she only met once on Thanksgiving) doesn’t like her. I told her that isn’t true, that I’d love to have her over, and if she changes her mind to let me know and She very promptly replied with “I’m just going to go to bed” and hung up.

I called her and texted her about two times each and she’s been ignoring me ever since.

Idk what to do, I tried my best to make her feel better about it and extend a hand, but I feel as if I still handled it wrong and am an asshole for saying id spend it with her even though i mistakenly double booked. Am i the asshole?

Edit: I spend time with my gf. Two or so nights a weeks and we text everyday and FaceTime almost every night. I’m not neglecting her. Also, Saw a couple responses here asking if I apologized. I did two or three separate times in our conversation, as well as in the calls and texts I sent.