I (29f) have a friend (30f) that has a 13 year old daughter. That friend and I were very close in college. We fell off after college because of general life stuff, there was no negativity between us. She sent me a message a couple months ago about how she missed me and wanted to get into contact again.

I was all for it, I missed her as well so we started talking as if we never lost touch. We realized quickly we were going down the path of being close again. She would include her daughter in our phone calls and FaceTimes so she and I got to know each other as well and we're forming a friendly bond.

2 weeks ago my friend called me while she was on her way to pick her daughter up from school. I was at work and had a meeting to get to so we only talked for a few minutes. I told her I'd let her know when I was on my break so she could call me, she said 'okay I'll talk to you in a couple hours'.

Once i got to my break, i texted her to let her know she could call me. I got no answer so after a half hour, i called her. No answer. I didn't think much of it, i assumed she was busy so I sent her a text letting her know what time I'd be off work.

The next day, I had nothing from her. I have anxiety so I went the entire day at work wondering if something happened but not wanting to be pushy. I sent her one text asking her how she was doing. No reply.

This went on for a week, me texting or calling and getting no answer. At this point, we had at the very least texted each other every day since getting back into contact so I was VERY worried. I thought since she was driving while on the phone with me last, maybe she had gotten into an accident. Not having anyone ender to contact, I messaged her daughter. I said "hey, is your mom alright? I haven't heard from her in a few days". She responded and said yes, she's just been really tired so she's asleep. I said 'okay, thank you. Whenever she wakes up, have her get ahold of me whenever she feels up to it'.

A few hours later, I get a call from her saying she just saw my texts and messages, that she was okay and that she'd not been feeling well. I said I was glad to hear it because I was worried. I told her that after a week of not hearing anything, i messaged her daughter to see if she was okay.

She was immediately furious, telling me under no circumstances was i to EVER contact her daughter about her ever again because she's a child and doesn't need to be brought into her business.

I apologized, explained that I meant no harm, and sent her a screenshot of the messages i sent her daughter to show that I hadn't pried or mentioned anything personal or adult oriented. She told me she didn't give a fuck and that I needed to stay in my lane.

We've not talked since. Ive messaged her a couole times asking how she is but havent received a response.

My boyfriend told me she overreacted but that I was out of line for messaging her daughter.

Was I out of line? I didn't intend to upset her or ruin a newly rekindled friendship.