So to start off, I (36F) have autism and ADHD. I was diagnosed with both when I was in the fifth grade. I know that I have trouble with a lot of thing and people can confuse me. I had to learn how to read social cues, how to interact with people and how to appear ‘normal’ around people.

Now onto my parents.

I love my parents, I do but I feel like recently, all they want to do is talk at me, not to me. I stream and make YouTube videos so I have a Throne. It’s a wishlist where you can addi tems and people can purchase things but also donate towards items over $20. I needed a new computer chair so I put one on there and for my birthday, one of my friends donated the rest of the money to get the item. I was excited. Now onto the problem.

My parents don’t work but I have a job. I’m also working on my debt. I’ve made a lot of headway this year and it’s getting better. However, because of this, my parents don’t like it when I spend any money on myself. Even if I get something I need, they seem to get angry. I also like to collect things. I collect dolls, Funko Pops, stuffed animals and other little baubles. They make me happy but I am not going out of my way to spend millions on items. I haven’t bought a doll for myself in almost two years. Yet whenever I get an item for myself, my parents get upset. Even if it's a practical thing like vitamins or shampoo. My dad keep telling me to sell my collection which I am not doing. It’s mine.

Well, shit hit the fan in October when for some reason, my window shattered. I got up, ready to go to work and I got into my car. When I closed the door, my back window just shattered. So my mom had to drive me to and from work.

After getting off work, my mother started giving me crap as soon as I got in the car. I’m silent on the car ride home. I was so tired, I was worried about my car and stressed. Why did she get made? Because of my stuff again. Neither her or my dad believed me when I said the chair was from friends. It’s the same when my fiance buys me stuff. They never believe me. Well, I started grabbing my stuff and putting it by the trash. My mom got confused and said she would sell the stuff to me. I basically told her, ‘I do not trust you.’ She then yelled at me to leave and I asked, ‘How!? My car is ruined!’

My fiance came over and once again, everyone talked around me.

Now here is where I might be the asshole.

I’ve decided I won’t be spending Thanksgiving with my family.

My mom assumes I’ll be there but I think I’m just going to I’m afraid she’ll get offended, go on about how I’m hurting her and it’ll become a huge drama but I just can’t spend Thanksgiving with my family. My extended is also really big with my brother and two sisters all having kids. I just can’t take the stress right now. I’m tired, constantly sick (i work at a daycare) and stressed. I can’t deal with family right.

So reddit, would I be the asshole if I skipped Thanksgiving with my family?