For context I have been going through a tough situation involving my family. I dislike some of the people in my moms side of my family. So I often leave and go to my father's house (Parents are divorced but live in close proximity, i have to spend one week at each house on and off.)

Today I left early in the morning to go to my father's house before my cousin (who I don't like being around) woke up.

Later I get a text from my grandmother asking if I'm at my mother's. She says she has something for decorating my bedroom, but only wants to bring it up when I'm there so I can see in person.

Then, she texts me saying she is on her way to my mother's, and asks if I want to meet her there. I respond with "No, I'm fine"

She responds with "Well, I'm not fine" and I ask her why, and she says "Because I took the time to get it ready, yet you can't take the time to come and see us."

And I respond with "You said you wanted to bring it up when I was there. I said I wasn't there and you brought it up anyway. I don't get how this is on me."

I don't really know what to say at this point, my moms side of the family just kind of frustrates me.