I am 41F, my husband is 49M, we have been married for 15 years.

We both work at the same place, which is a large university. He applied for a promotion, and received it. The problem is that if he takes this job, he would be responsible for overseeing the department where I work. He wouldn't be my direct supervisor, but a couple levels up. I wouldn't be working with him directly.

When he applied, he told me that this wouldn't be a problem. Apparently, he was told that I could keep my job, but just report to someone else so I'm not in his direct chain of command. But after he got the job, we were told that this isn't possible and he can't take the job until I quit. Apparently it is a rule in the employee handbook (government university so there are a lot of rules) that hasn't really been enforced that well until recently.

For context, I currently make about 45k a year. In his current position, he makes 125k, and the new position would be about 145k. He says that I don't even have to work anymore because we don't need that much money (we are in LCOL area, house paid off, and no kids). But to me, it's not about the money. I attended this university and worked in this department part time when I was a student, and then started full time as soon as I graduated. I have been working with some of my coworkers longer than I've known my husband. I don't want to give it all up just so he can get a promotion, as I would probably be bored sitting at home. He did mention that I can easily get another similar job in a different department on campus (our university is expanding and these types of jobs are a dime a dozen), but again, I don't want to make such a big change and there's no guarantee I would get along with my new coworkers and enjoy my work like I currently do.

WIBTA if I refuse to submit my resignation?