Okay so here it goes. My girlfriend and i have been dating for a few months. We are also each others ex's as we dated several years ago. (For almost 2 years) i am 35 and she is 29 in case that is relevant. I told my girlfriend on wednesday, a few days ago, that on saturday i would be taking my car to a auto shop to get it looked at for bad breaks and other things. For that reason, i wouldnt be seeing her during the day, and saturday evening id be going to uncles house to catch the ufc pay perview fights. My uncle has a cheater box essentially so i try to go over there as much as possible for ufc/boxing fights that are behind a paywall, and for that reason i wouldnt be seeing her at night unless she wanted to come with. However, i would be over at her house on sunday and we'd spend all day together, which she was fine with. I work monday-friday 3-11pm so the weekends are the only time we get to spend together. We try and do for the most part spend time together both days on the weekend but she understands as well that i want/need time for myself and my interests. That's only healthy right? The following day, thursday my girlfriend did something to her back while doing yard work. She has a degenerative spinal disease and every once in a while if she just turns or twists wrong her back gets thrown out and shes down for the count for a few days, basically bedridden, only getting up to go to the bathroom and getting food/drink and in a lot of pain. She does live with her family so she doesnt have to do everything for herself. We talk about her back and what shes going through the rest of the week, im being nothing but sympathetic and supportive and trying to make her feel better. Thursday and friday she doesnt ask or say anything about if she could see me saturday instead of sunday or both days so come saturday i assume we are going forward with the original plan. Well, twas not the case. After i dropped my car off at the shop, she texted me asking me if i was still planning on going to my uncles. I said yes but whats up and her response was, well i was kind of hoping youd come over because i want to see you. I said just keep getting rest and taking it easy and ill see you tomorrow. While my car was and still is in the shop, i have access to my dads car but i wasnt going anywhere until i got news of my car and decided what to do, which was about 4pm. The earliest i would have got to her house would have been 5, which if i did that i would have been scrapping my evening plans altogether. My thinking is the earliest i can get over to her is 5, and im seeing her sunday afternoon and spending all day together as well, it should be fine rightWell not in her eyes. She ghosts me the rest of saturday and texts me this morning to stay home as in she is not interested in feeling like my second choice....so with that said, am i the asshole here?