Me (17F) and my friend (17F) have been friends for a little over a year now. We were best friends when we were younger, and reconnected recently.

To keep it anonymous, I’ll call her Evie. She is in a really tough situation at home, and is trying to move out asap with her boyfriend. I’ve been trying to help out financially, along with my grandma and mom. We both have had rough childhoods, and lost touch when I got removed from my dad’s care into my grandmothers home. Her father passed away, and she lives with her mom and step dad.

Recently, my grandma hired Evie to work for her company. Evie hasn’t been able to get a job, because she does cheer and a bunch of other stuff. My grandma had very little requirements, and mainly wanted to give her some money and work experience. Evie was hired to come over 2-3 times a week, and makes about $19-$21 an hour. For organizing and sorting stuff. That’s fine, and I don’t mind her over all the time.

However, she will not stop making comments towards me and my family about being “rich”. She always wants us to order food for her. She says “well you get it all the time and I don’t ever get it”. So we give in, and get her food. We got her groceries one time, and helped pay for a bathing suit and some hygiene stuff (which she can ONLY use one brand and only shops at target). I never make comments back, I know she’s in a rough spot so I have empathy for her. Plus- it’s mainly my grandmas money so it’s not my business usually.

My family went on a trip to the beach this week, and I convinced them to take her. This was an ALL EXPENSES PAID TRIP. We got her food, clothes for it, everything. She was super grateful at first, but once we went on the trip not so much. She snuck alcohol there, which was super risky since this place is strict on that. I said i didn’t feel comfortable drinking with my parents in the house. She peer pressured me, I gave in. She stole from the stores, even when I asked her not to.

We met some cute guys at this restaurant, who I found later were college boys. I told her I didn’t feel comfy meeting up with them alone at the beach. She said “you don’t know anything about this stuff. Trust me it’s fine”. She shows me a snap of them asking how old we are, and that they want to tap. I said “no tell them we aren’t interested.” She didn’t. She said “we’re 18”. They even saved that, and screenshotted it. She gave me some beer and said it would help with anxiety. I told her I was scared, she really didn’t care.

Last minute at the beach, they were on their way. We snuck out to the beach. I changed my mind. I got so so scared. She called me a baby, but I left. I made her come home with me. They sent a snap with a condom and a beer. ABSOLUTELY NOT. I said I’d call my mom if she didn’t come with me. Bear IN MIND, SHE HAS A BOYFRIEND.

She told me I ruined her break. Stole my grandma’s cigarettes, and didn’t talk to me for a week.

Was I being too stuck up? Did I ruin her trip? I feel bad.