So, to preface a year ago (names changed for privacy) “Leonard”(33m) and I were not married (we have since married). Prior to our small ceremony we had been planning a bigger event, then something happened last year that changed my mind, I noticed on my phone there was a “moto g” attached to my google account that had been accessing my accounts and passwords, and then during a conversation with my soon to be MIL she brought up something she shouldn’t have known without having access to that stuff. I told this to my at the time fiancé. He didn’t immediately bring it up to his family, but after a few days he did say something much to my chagrin because I didn’t have outright proof it was her and I told him that, nonetheless an accusation was made and there was nothing that could be done, I did apologize once, however it wasn’t accepted, and I expected that. Now, it has been over a year we have let things settle, no further drama has been brought up, and I have not inserted myself in his family life however my MIL who is my husband’s step mother is now coming here my husband and his father, and the other day made a comment to my husband about how he’s using his father because he’s with me, and that I’ve turned him against his family, and that I need to apologize because she’s still mad about what happened last year! I feel like she’s being a tantrum throwing baby, she came to our courthouse wedding uninvited and did the same thing, which my husband and I were pissed about too, I get you don’t like me, which is why I maintain distance, but holding a grudge over something so small, when it’s literally something I already apologized about and you didn’t accept the apology then. No. Am I an asshole for telling my husband I will give her no further apologies and I will not give in to her or his family’s emotional terrorism?