My(26f) boyfriend (30m) got really upset with me and I’m genuinely confused. About two weeks before Christmas I asked him if he wanted to change gifts and he told me no. Well fast forward to Christmas Day and I post a picture of my bathroom door decorations and the things I got myself. For context I do this every year to remind myself it’s okay to buy new clothes every once in a while (I’m typically very frugal).

On to the issue, when we met up for dinner he was extremely distant and short with me. I asked him what was on his mind and he told me “it was the fact he didn’t do those things for me”. I was still confused and asked him to clarify and he told me “Treating yourself and having fun with me on Christmas is just weird to me. I mean I understand that I work and you want a you day but still”. I really don’t see anything wrong, but then again I only really see things at face value most times. Please help me understand. Am I the asshole here, is there even an asshole?

TLDR; my bf said we aren’t exchanging gifts so I bough myself some clothes and wine.