Clarification, this is a friend’s story, but since she doesn’t have Reddit, she’s using my account to share this ———————————————————————— I (F17), have divorced parents. They split when I was three, and for the 14 years since then my dad only texts me about 4 times a year. I go to his house (three states away) for two weeks in the summer and one week-ish for winter break.(mind you, there are four little kids, 9,7,5,and 4 this year. I live with my mom, dog, and 24 year old brother. That is not my normal environment. This year I decided originally (in August , and my dad was ovation with it then) to take my boyfriend (M19) (of over a year) with me, and stay in a hotel during the night, visiting their house during the day. My father decided a month before Christmas that he didn’t want that to happen. And he only wanted me to go down. I have only had my license for about four months so I was not comfortable driving just myself to his house in the winter. Now to the good part. I brought some of my concerns up to my dad and his wife. (Pictures will be included of some of the conversation in comments, dad is pink/purple, his wife is blue) I believe that the way I worded my message was very collected and thought out. I think I was being VERY respectful and informative. However I was met with hostility and “why haven’t we known about this sooner” because my issues were my problem and because I was in therapy for about a year and a half, I never thought to tell them about my panic attacks. (Side note, I only really have panic attacks at their house, and the last time it happened was during their Christmas party, I hid in the bathroom for upwards of 40 minutes, and the ONLY person who noticed me gone and checked on me was my younger sibling (F6), and when I returned downstairs the only thing my dad had to say was “oh you finally decided to join us?” In a joking tone. I was bringing this up now because my original plan was to avoid my panic attacks all together, I would have had my vehicle, and someone to mentally ground me. Now that this was not an option, I was asking for help working out a compromise with a space for me to go and calm down, and maybe some insight on daily plans. Every text that I sent (except for maybe the last four) were thought out, by me and my mother before sending. I’m very confused and frustrated. Now they have stalled up until the day before I am supposed to leave. I have been losing sleep over this combined with the stress of finding a job, and losing power due to a huge storm in my state. AITA?