I (M59) am ±90% bedbound, otherwise a limited wheelchair user. I have multiple issues causing this, including being: - a left transfemoral amputee; a fibromyalgia patient (the combination thereof is the main mobility problem); a diabetic & a heart attack victim. I have to be treated with multiple analgaesics twice daily, which tend to further exhaust me, both physically and mentally.

My son (M20) suffers from some milder mental issues, claiming depression, anxiety, medically induced exhaustion & PTSD among them and has just become employed for the very first time for a probable 36 to 45-hour working week.

I NEED occasional assistance to function semi-normally, mostly: - dusting; hoovering; keeping surfaces clean & tidy; operating a dishwasher, washing machine & clothes-dryer; putting away dishwashed and cleaned/dried washing (up); fetching a little hand-carried shopping from local shops and then the distribution of other, supermarket-delivered comestibles - for which I have priorly mostly paid at least the going rate.

I also require assistance with some very quick unpaid tasks: - taking out the bins; feeding the cats; dealing with urine bottles; refilling kettles & fetching comestibles to my bed-station.

The unpaid jobs don't require anything like 3 hours in a week.

I asked my son to cover the unpaid jobs for me and offered him the first choice of any paid jobs required.

According to my son, he translates this as 'him having to live with me 24/7, thus disallowing him to take up his/any employment and then, him working all the required jobs for me, unpaid'.

Apparently, my expectations constitute modern-day slavery, and any argument I might have against this is narcissistic gaslighting, psychological transference and any other kind of abuse one can think of.

So, who's the arsehole here???