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I (29m,) own a house and I rent out a room to one of my friends (30m). I also have two dogs. Those two dogs absolutely adore my roommate. When he's home, they spend all their time with him. He loves them too. The problem is this: he does nothing to help out with them. Basically, he gets the benefit of having dogs in the house with none of the responsibility. If I'm not home, he will do the bare minimum like feeding them and taking them outside for potty breaks and on walks. But if I'm home, he absolutely refuses to help with them. It has irritated me for a long time and every night before bed, I ask him if he will please take them outside for their potty break and every night, he refuses. I suffer from depression to the point where it's hard for me to have the motivation to do anything. The other night, I was so depressed, it was hard for me to get off the couch. I asked him if he would take them out because I was suffering and he refused. I snapped at him and told him he needs to help out and he refused again. Needless to say, I was very upset with him and confronted him the next day. Not only did he refuse to apologize, he called me an AH for expecting him to take care of my dogs. Normally, I wouldn't even think of asking a roommate to help out. But he literally spends all day with them and they love spending time with him whereas a normal roommate wouldn't have that relationship. AITA here?
YTA
They are YOUR dogs and they are 150% YOUR responsibility ALL of the time.
It doesn't matter if they like him more than they like you. If they spend more time with him, if they sleep in his bed etc.
You are NOT entitled to his help, ever. It doesn't matter if you are depressed if you are having a horrible day, or are completely and utterly incompetent. Get off your ass and take care of your responsibility, or rehome them to someone who has the mental capacity to do so.
You are not entitled to own them or to have support with them. If you want someone to do your job, hire someone and pay them.
He is fully entitled to enjoy the benefits of living in a home with dogs, and none of the responsibilities, because they aren't his dogs.
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