I have a decent sized group of friends, and like in most friend groups, we have a subset of friends within the larger circle. Now we all get along well together, but gossip does happen in these types of situations. I generally keep my nose out of others business, but I will give in to the temptation of juicy gossip every now and then. Thus begins my story, so my friend (31F) “G” has a very big personality, loves to be center of attention, but still very kind and loving. She’s a great friend, but generally lacks respect for others boundaries. We dated in the past and this was the cause of our breakup, although we are still cordial and happy to see each other during big get togethers. She confided in me recently that she heard through the grapevine that so and so (friends within this group) were talking about her behind her back. She admits that her personality is “a lot” but doesn’t seem to grasp that some people don’t want someone sniffing into their business, and she asked me my opinion on that. I told her flat out that as great as she can be to hang around with, she is very overbearing and doesn’t respect others boundaries. She gave me some pushback on that comment so I gave two examples. The first was, our text thread. I showed her an old group chat where no one was answering her, and she proceeded to call every one of us multiple times and spam the chat because we were “ignoring her”. I explained to her that for people with high anxiety, that’s pretty much torture. They will answer when they want to. Next was the issue of lack of respect for boundaries. Basically the same scenario with one of our friends “ignoring her” because he was busy with his family (wife and child) and she then proceeded to show up to his place unannounced and verbally assaulted him. Now had that happened to me, the friendship would have been over, but my buddy is the understanding type and was convinced by G that she was just worried about his wellbeing. I may not be wording this right but I am very blunt and direct with her when I explain this. She counters with the “it’s just my personality to act that way”. I told her it’s more of a character flaw, and was promptly told I was an asshole. I honestly can’t figure out if maybe our past relationship allowed me to be this cutting towards G or if it was just something I thought I needed to drive home and illustrate to her? So should I have beat around the bush or AITA?