for context: mid 20s couple, have been married for 3 years

lately, i’ve been learning how to cook. the past 4 nights i’ve made amazing dinners according to my husband. tonight, after my husband came in from a run, he was upset to hear that i didn’t add chicken to the dish, and just used eggs for protein. my husband is much bigger than me physically, so i usually don’t need much protein to feel full. this dish required a lot of eggs in my opinion, so i figured it was fine protein wise. when i realized he was upset, i went to take some chicken from the freezer to cook, but it was frozen so he would have to wait for it to thaw.

even after i tried to fix my “mistake,” he was extremely upset, claiming i don’t think or care about him enough, or take him into account with my actions. i was genuinely appalled he was so upset, because it quite frankly, is just chicken. and he also isn’t one to freak out over little things like this.

he said i wasn’t being accepting or validating enough about his feelings in this situation, but i don’t feel like i need to because i find this ridiculous. i feel like he is attaching SO much meaning about how i feel about him and our relationship, all because i underestimated how much protein he needs. i’m new to cooking, so i’m still trying to figure out portion sizes and protein amount.

he said i need to be more validating, because a few weeks ago when i walked out to make a quick grocery store run, he commented saying i looked “ratchet,” which obviously, is very upsetting to hear from your partner. he said i was being unfair because i got mad at him for being “invalidating” of my feelings after that comment, yet i’m apparently doing the same thing here. but in my opinion, making an unkind, unsolicited comment about someone’s appearance is a lot different than underestimating protein portions when you’re starting out cooking. i find this honestly ridiculous, but maybe i’m missing something here, so, am i the asshole?