For context this is a throwaway because a friend that’s close uses Reddit. I 27f am a single mother of 2. The father(25m) of my youngest feels like I’m keeping him away. Before I get started. I take care of my children with the BEST and upmost care and love. They have everything they need. I don’t need to hear about me being a single parent.(I do not support having kids when you’re not ready nor do I support having children just to have them). So I got pregnant right after the six week ban was introduced to my state. I found out at 10w. I went thru my pregnancy kinda okay but we won’t get into that. At the end my baby father and I were in good terms. As I’m in the hospital he calls, we talk, my mom says something outta pocket to fuel a fire, he gets mad, I try to redirect attention to conversation, he proceeds to hang up and not come to hospital. For a whole 2 weeks I didn’t hear from him. I finally talk to him and he comes to see our child. He smells like smoke I don’t like that but I let him know he can’t smell like that and touch him. He leaves. I don’t hear from him for month. He asks to take him for Christmas but I was already gone so we had to reschedule. (He let me know day of). We did a few months later and we were meant to meet at a fast food spot. He isn’t there. We talk, my father says something rude, I try to wave him away and re direct conversation and move on, he gets mad we argue, he says unless I bring him to see his father he won’t see him and hangs up. He does talk to me for months that was when my son was 4 months and now my son is 8mo. I always told him whenever he wants to see our kid to hmu and he can come see him. He never messaged me. He is now telling everyone that I am an asshole who refuses to let him take our son nor see him. When we recently talked I let him know that our son doesn’t have all his shot due to an illness he has. He calls it an excuse and gets upset that he can’t take him. I can see his side of it but I’m conflicted. I want what’s best for my kid. Am I The Asshole?

(Context I do not live with my parents I just don’t have a car because mine broke down so they were around)