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So I (27m) work at retail with a lot of women, and they like to gossip all the time. So much so that they knew my name, age, what I looked like, etc. before I even introduced myself to anyone. Now they are a lot of women and gay men working where I do, so the topics they talk about don't fall within my common interests. They are also either a lot older or a lot younger than me, so it's still hard to strike a convo. So, instead, I say nothing and work.
One day, a coworker of mine yelled my name from across the store and asked me to come here. She asked me aggressively why I didn't talk to anyone at work. I started laughing and asked her what she would we talk about. Then I further explained the demographic situation at work and that I'm also married, so I don't have a lot of incentive to talk to anyone at work as it'd be too awkward to force the conversation.
She almost took offense to this but was surprised at how much sense it made. She said I should say hi more often, I said if that's all she wanted, I could do that.
Later on, I started saying hi more at work, but everyone started avoiding me and even leaving in groups to take their breaks, leaving me to run the store by myself. it's become overwhelming. Later, I heard people talking in Spanish (which I understood somewhat) saying things about how I'm mean and aggressive and judgey.
I'm now reverting to not saying hi, and the rumors about me are getting worse.
AITA?
Edit: To specify, I originally said good morning to everyone at work, and I'm not unresponsive. I don't ignore anyone, but they do talk about celebrity gossip, what coworker is dating or sleeping with who and amongst other nsfw things. When I say I'm married and have kids I mean that's all my life is and all I have reference to discuss, I've tried striking conversations but found no one is into video games anime movies etc. Again, I do talk, but when I "say nothing," it's usually in those types of conversations. I'm also extroverted, but I'm bad at it, so if it's a topic I know nothing about, I just kinda go numb.
None of my coworkers are bad people as far as I know they just are people I have nothing in common with, and I don't feel the incentive to know them either.
The person who called me out to say hi I don't see often and is usually part of the shift change, so me not saying hi to her is common.
Update: So this incident happened awhile ago and I talked to management about the behavior ONLY relating to leaving me alone during our shifts to cover the store by myself, (They do it all the time not during their break) and hanging out in the back or in other departments. They haven't done anything so I requested to just move to another department. They said since it's union I had to wait for approvalwhich i got today in my email. I'll be starting a new schedule Tuesday. Also several other coworkers I didn't know were also leaving the department due to favoritism, and work place bullying and harassment by those same people.
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