Okay so for background I (23f) am friends with this guy (36m). He doesn't have kids nor a significant other. He wants kids but he doesn't want a baby mother or that"drama" So he's been looking for a surrogate. He asked most his friends and they all said no. He asked one friend if she would and if she did he'll pay for her medical bills and she can stay with him but he doesn't want her to have any other kids or surrogate for anyone else. She said no. I told him that he's delusional to think someone would be his surrogate and not have children of their own or be a surrogate for anyone else. Now here's where I might be the asshole. He said to me he was picky not delusional. I told him he's delusional to think that any woman would want to be his surrogate with his ridiculous requests. Also with the edition of wanting to do NI because he finds them attractive. I told him he's weird and needs to get a grip on reality. He called me an asshole for not understanding him. Part of me feels like an asshole because I was kind of harsh but I don't know. Am I the asshole?

Edit because some people find it confusing. He called me on the phone to complain about the friend.

Edit: For everyone saying I shouldn’t be friends with him. I called him after I saw the influx of people saying he’s crazy. I told him that I will no longer be continuing our friendship because I don’t think his mindset is something I can support

Edit: for everyone saying it’s not smart of me to let go of this person just from this. We previously have argued about black politics (he’s not on the side of black people and we both are black). We’ve had talks and disagreed on single parenthood and how to parent. This is just the most insane creepy thing I’ve ever heard out of his mouth and it was already making me feel weird hearing it. Also yes we met at church. This is one of the reasons I left the church because they cover up predators until it happens to you and you find out. I refuse to go through that again and would like to thank everyone for their concern. I hope he doesn’t find this because I’m worried about the reaction he’ll have