It's almost quarter past 4 AM here. My sister planned a little two-day vacation to visit a pair of well-known theme parks, and booked an Airbnb that happened to be nearby them both.

When we arrived, there was a particular statement that said, "if anyone asks, say that you're visiting [person]".

This may be undiagnosed neuro-atypical behavior, but alarm bells are going off in my head. The Airbnb host is asking us to lie if we're noticed in the apartment.

My friends have pegged me as being incredibly lawful (in terms of the D&D lawful-chaotic axis of alignment) - I very much try to follow the spirit and letter of laws and whatever agreements to the best of my ability.

The thing is, I rent an apartment as my primary residence. I know for certain there's a clause in my renter's agreement that I'm not allowed to turn around and lease my living space off to somebody else (such as on Airbnb). I admit I don't know what kind of agreement our current host has with this building's owner, but if we're to say we're "visiting" someone, that does have a bit of an implication.

My sister and her friend (because my sister planned this as a getaway for all three of us) are relatively flippant about it - when I brought up my discomfort about the "visiting" clause, my sister simply just shushed me. To reference the earlier D&D alignments, I'm starting to think they might lean chaotic.

So, as I lay wide awake here on the first night, I have to ask: would I be the asshole to veto Airbnb on future getaways? I have a distinct feeling that they simply grabbed it because it was likely cheaper than getting a hotel... which is fine, but I feel like all involved parties (including landlords, if the host doesn't outright own the place) should be in the know of what's going on.

( To add some further context prior to posting: my sister planned the whole thing... without any input from me. Frankly, I'm an introvert whose idea of a good time is playing games with friends online. Theme parks are fine, but frankly they're not my first choice. I haven't even gone to the parks yet and I'm already not happy with how things are going. )

Something else I'd like to add after submitting to Judgement Bot - I am fully aware that my sister is not earning as much money as I am. She works as a librarian, I work in game dev. To my knowledge, she (and likely her friend) pooled together the money for this getaway, and they pulled me in effectively for free. I do intend to pay my fair share on the exorbitant food costs, but I have no idea how much my sister paid on the theme park tickets for the three of us, not do I know how much the Airbnb booking was.

Additionally, this is the first time I've used Airbnb - my sister added me to the reservation. I don't know if she has used it prior to this getaway.

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ADDENDUM from an attraction's queue line: had a chat with my sister about having literally zero winks of sleep, having stayed up all night worried about this conundrum. I haven't had a chance to verify this, but she supposedly spent US$800 on this Airbnb for a three night stay - one day for each of the two parks. This, in comparison to US$1300 it would be to stay at a "reputable" hotel (theme park "tax") not to mention those hotel suites likely wouldn't have the separated beds like our rented unit does. And what's to say there is an Airbnb host that's doing things "right" close to the area AND for as cheap as this host?

She also brought up the point - it would be on the host if we got caught, not us. Regardless of my feelings on this, the host is absolutely in the wrong here for breaking whatever contract they have with their landlord, and none of that "blood" is on our hands as the renters.

To all the judges believing me a guilty partassipant - I own it. My sister sent me an invite to the reservation, and it fell on me to voice my concerns then, during the planning phase, rather than now, as we sleep in the very unit I'm complaining about while in spitting distance of the park.

And in relation to the money, I actually talked to my sister about it, saying I'd feel much better about it if I picked up the tab on all the food. She said something to the effect of, "mom forbids you from paying me back". Checked in with my mother, and she basically confirmed it. I still feel particularly guilty that I'm freeloading off my sister like this, so I'm still gonna try to sneak my card in as much as I can.