Situation: in 2021, I was repeatedly blown off by a dr about a growing lump in my breast. When I finally went to the ER it was a 13cm tumor that had spread to my lymph node (yey!). I was planning on filing a complaint on that dr when I felt better but my dad got it into his head I should file a malpractice lawsuit. I resisted the idea for the longest time because 1. Don't have the energy right now 2. The country I live in (he doesn't, he's never been) isn't so big on lawsuit and I don't think I have a case.

He finally wore me down when he swore up and down he'd take care of everything, pay whatever fees, and I'd just have to collect. He'd already found lawyers. I said alright, have a blast.

Of course the first step was him sending me a "summary" of the situation "to translate" that was all wrong, so I would have to correct it and translate it. I said you know what, I will talk to the lawyers, please don't. Yet he has been insisting on being in the loop despite me asking him not to and yesterday night sent an email to the lawyers asking for a video chat. It bugs me so much. He always gets everything wrong and can only possible make things more complicated.

Context: my parents divorced when I was 6 months old, and had shared custody. When I was 11 I ran away to my mothers and asked her to get full custody. It was a tumultuous year with lots of police involved. When it finally went to trial (he didn't show) which was in my name, I got a lifetime restraining order against him (and my mum full custody). For the anecdote: when I was signing my statement my lawyer grabbed a random lawyer in the hallway as a witness. That lawyer read it and said "Oh hey! [Father's name], I've had him as a client! He never paid me, haha". So yeah, when he insists I let him help because he has "a lot of experience in court", I think of that anecdote.

We kind of reconciled a few years ago through his family, but I keep him at arm's length always.

TLDR: father wants me to sue for medical malpractice, I would like him to butt out, not talk to lawyers and pay if needed, as he promised (so far no fees), but I feel kind of guilty cause that's not a nice thing to say to anyone and maybe if I want him out I can't ask him to pay.

The thing is, if he doesn't pay, I cannot afford this -- but also would be fine not doing it. All in all, I'm torn all kinds of ways.