Am I [25F] the asshole for not saying Happy Mother’s day to my mom today? For a little bit of background, my parents are both from Mexico so today is technically mother’s day in Mexico, we currently live in the states. My siblings and I all grew up here. My mom is honestly not a good mom & was incredibly verbally abusive during my childhood. She is also quite the narcissist. Due to how we were all treated we’ve all distanced ourselves from our mom as we’ve grown into adults. My mom has always taken advantage of BOTH mother’s days. All during my childhood she’s expected gifts and showered in love for both the American & Mexican holiday. But as we grew older we as her children only celebrated the US holiday. My dad sends a text to us telling all of us how upset my mom is none of us told her “Happy Mother’s Day” and how we should be more considerate of her feelings. We explained that we would be celebrating in a few days & she would get all of her gifts and such then. He told us we were selfish and unloving. I understand it’s simple to say it but after years of being manipulated and abused we don’t feel the need to celebrate both days.