Im in the unfortunate situation that I’m due to give birth the day after my in laws 25 years wedding anniversary. I live with my in laws. My husband revealed that there are 46 people coming to a party that him and his brothers want to host to celebrate my in laws. The party will be taking place at the house, so I can’t really escape it. My in laws are already having a party next year with the same people because they wanted to take into consideration that I’m going to give birth.

I don’t see how it’s appropriate to throw a big party with 46 people the day before I’m due when my husband and I just had a party this weekend where we were 11 people in all. We had our first wedding anniversary yesterday but our birthdays are also later in the month of May, and we decided to celebrate everything yesterday (both birthdays and anniversary) so that I wouldn’t stress as I got closer to my due date.

How can it be realistic to do a party with 46 people the day before I’m due when we moved our birthday parties 2 weeks early and were fewer people?

Am I being crazy and unrealistic, or am I somehow right in not wanting a huge party at the house where I live the day before I’m due to give birth? In our country it’s tradition for the children to plan a surprise for the parents anniversary, so my in laws are clueless.

Update/clarifying points: 1. Invites have not already been sent out yet. My husband and his brothers just today finished the guest list and are starting inviting people over the next few days. 2. I knew already people were going to come, so that isn’t the issue at hand, I had just figured it was a low key gathering. My husband was talking about a party and when I asked he confessed that it was for his parents anniversary and that’s when I found out all the details, such as that the low key gathering was a two day party with 46 guests. 3. My husband and his brothers had seriously not considered what would happen if I gave birth before my due date, in fact when he asked his older brother he said he didn’t care, that there would still be a party. This makes me very uncomfortable due to the fact that 46 people in the house is a health hazard for a newborn. 4. My issue isn’t with the party itself but with the amount of guests and the fact that they haven’t planned to hold the party elsewhere. 5. My in laws don’t know anything about the party because in our country it’s tradition for the children to plan a surprise for their parents wedding anniversary. 6. My in laws have expressed interest in being present at the hospital when I give birth because this will be their first grandchild. 7. Going home to a friend is not an option because I moved here from another city 125 km away, only 1 month ago. Travelling that distance is not an option at this point. I also have no family members in this city other than my husband’s family. 8. On Wednesday I’m 37 weeks along and the government health officials here consider a birth from 37 weeks onward to not be premature.

FINAL UPDATE: I tipped off my mother in law. And it led to a conversation, with her and I but also she talked with my husband (just the two of them) and I think she and my husband and my father in law also talked to his brothers. There’s now a plan B in place, whether I go into labour during the two days of festivities, am still at the hospital, or am already home with baby. I feel a lot more comfortable now and I am glad I said something.