My girlfriend, Abby (f31) and I (m33) have been together for a few months and this Easter, I was going to introduce her to my family. We haven’t moved in together yet.

Abby is quite smart, she has a phd and works in her field. I only have a BA so you can imagine my surprise when hot and smart woman wanted to date me. Anyway, I digress, Abby’s passion is writing although she’s never allowed me to read anything she wrote. She dreams of writing a book and says she’s practicing and trying to draft things.

One day, I was staying over and fell asleep and she went to her office to write. When I woke up I peered over her shoulder when she was writing and saw names that sounded familiar. I asked her about this and sure enough, she admitted to writing Fanfiction. Apparently, she already wrote 100k Fanfiction and is working on her third one. She says it’s writing practice and she loves it. I told her it’s cringy and if she was serious about her book, she’d write it by now because she’s pretty much already wrote 2 books if only they weren’t Fanfiction. She got silent and told me to leave her alone.

When I introduced her to my family, I mentioned that she has a phd. My brother and sister got impressed and asked about it. Abby tried to tell them but I interjected and told them to not be so impressed because she wastes her time writing silly Fanfiction so Idont know how she even got her doctorate. It was meant to be a joke but Abby was angry. She called me an asshole She wouldn’t talk to me for the rest of the day and asked me to drive her home. I tried to come in but she told me she wanted to be alone and write her Fanfiction. I told her she was childish but left anyway.

I haven’t heard back from her since then and I told my sister and my sister agreed with Abby.

I tried to call Abby but she texted me with “asshole,” and nothing else. My sister thinks I owe Abby an apology but I don’t think I did anything wrong and yet Abby is annoyed.

Was I really the asshole here?