A little back story I (24 f) and my husband (30 m) live with his mother (50 f). MIL is a clean freak she expects our house to be spotless every room of it like no one lives here and out house is just on display. My husband and I do not live like this and haven’t lived like this since as long as I’ve known him. My husband is lazy and I’ve grown to accept it sure our bathroom floor has a pile of laundry on it with clothes and towels, my BIL was frustrated and understandably so. He texted my husband and my husband said I’ll pick it up when I get him. This is where it gets crazy MIL asked why and I told her to ask her son why. It doesn’t matter how many laundry baskets I put in there he just doesn’t use them. She said well maybe you should do it then I told her I am not going to and then she called me a bitch and said I was giving her attitude. I told her if she didn’t like things then she could leave. She then said I was only with her son for his money what money we are barely scraping by, she also called me lazy I’m a mother and a full time college student and I’m sorry my days don’t look like yours spending them cleaning I don’t have the mental space or capacity for it. So Am I The Asshole? EDIT to clarify: it is mine and my husbands house. Mil and bil live with us.