My dad, deceased since 87 when I was 13, was married and had kids prior to him marrying my mom.

His first wife ran off with the kids, and my dad never kept in touch with his side of the family. I never met any of his relatives.

He was in the service, and where he met my mom was across the country from his ex wife, kids, and family.

Fast forward to a couple of years ago. I don't do social media, and my digital footprint is non-existent.

Through a friend, I found out there was someone asking about me in a Facebook group in my town.

I decided to reach out and she says she is related to me. I am skeptical, until she sends a couple pics of my father I have never seen.

She is my sister. She has spent many years looking for me.

We message back and forth, stories are swapped. She was 1 when her mom took her, so she wanted to know what dad is like. Over the course of a few months, I fill her in.

I have literally exhausted my knowledge. After all, he died when I was young.

Now, she wants to meet and I am just not in to it. We have nothing in common. Our personalities are night and day.

She seems quite well adjusted, and has a family. She seems to have done just fine getting past it, and her step dad sounds like he was a very good dude.

I appreciate the lengths she went to in order to hunt me down. She put several decades on and off looking for me. I know she put a lot in to it.

I feel like I have given her all the knowledge I can give her. I don't feel like I can give her any more info, and I am not really a family oriented person for many reasons. I also feel a vague guilt- i got a few years with my dad, and she got none. I just dont see how forming a relationship will help.

Am I the asshole for not wanting to form a relationship?