Ps, I am definitely 100% the asshole in this situation but read on.

My cousin has issues with his eyes and vision. He lives in… for the sake of keeping this anonymous… Dallas but there’s a specialist he goes to in…. Houston. I live nowhere near either btw so keep that in mind.

My cousin went to Houston to a condominium his mom inherited with her brother. Now my cousin loathes his mother as she is a very toxic, manipulative, hateful person. My cousin is married with a step son but his wife doesn’t get along great with his mother. Long story short his mom goes on another tirade and rant, scares the step son and his wife has a melt down. His wife leaves, and he decides he can’t stay with his mom and ask if he could come here for a couple days, sobbing on the phone. I say of course.

Here’s the issues, moment he gets here, he shows up outside my house, arguing with the taxi driver cause he stiffed the cab ride out of $10. They get into it a bit, I would’ve just gave the $10 but literally had no cash on me. That’s fine. The moment he walks in, he puts his bags down, takes out a thc vape pen and smokes it over my babies play pen with her in it. I immediately grab her, take her away and outside. Was this an overreaction? Maybe. I’m not super morally opposed to people who smoke or anything, just didn’t wanna chance my baby being around it. I explain to my cousin how he can’t do that, but later on in the week I constantly find the weed pen around the house, on the couch and so forth where any one of my children can just grab it. I repeatedly tell him you can’t leave it around, he persist there’s nothing in there to which I always respond “if there’s nothing in there then why not just throw it away?”

Okay that’s fine. Financially I’m not the best at the moment, so at times my cousin will use his EBT to pay for groceries and do, so he’s not being a total free loader. He freely volunteered this and I greatly appreciated it. A week goes by, and I’m getting more and more uncomfortable with him around. Something about him just doesn’t mesh well with me, a certain darkness if you will but that’s another story for another time. A week goes by and I go upstairs into my daughters toy room where he’s been sleeping. What do I find ? A half eaten pill right on top of my daughters toy kitchen, easily accessible for her to get to. After that I decided that he had to leave. Earlier that day I found the weed vape once again on the couch where my kids can get it, and now there’s open pills where my kids can just walk in and take.

Keep in mind, my daughter is 2. This is her toy room, which she was going in and out of (despite my protest but toddlers lol) while my cousin was here. Door wasn’t locked or anything and I decided that him being around, he just wasn’t used to small kids.

So instead of telling him this like a mature adult, I made up that my in laws had to stay here and told him he had to leave. He packed his bags very angrily and complained about not having anywhere to go.

We got into an argument since then but that’s another story for another time.

I know ITA because I should’ve just told him maturely