Edit for info: -We live in Southwest Ontario, Canada. He’s been driving for 8 years, his car has winter tires and is in good working condition.

-If I wanted to be put on as a secondary driver I’d have to talk to his dad about it and I’m quite shy when it comes to that

-I work 9-6 as the closer of my classroom at a daycare, no choice to call in due to weather

-The weather apps said “snowfall 5-15 cm” which yes is significant but to Ontario residents is not any indication of needing alternate travel plans

-the storm started at 3pm with 2-4cm per hour and 70-80km/hr winds

-I didn’t dress more weather appropriately because when I left the house at 7am all I knew was that it was going to snow but it was Monday and he’d be there to get me

-He doesn’t get on his game until 10 or 11, after we’ve eaten dinner, watched some tv and spent time together.

-Thanks for the relationship advice, but if I wanted it I would’ve posted on r/relationshipadvice

-His ultimate reason for not coming to get me was safety and not wrecking car because we need it to move in 2 weeks, which leads to the fact that we’re moving to a MUCH closer (8 bus stops) apartment soon and none of this will matter

I didn’t expect this to blow up like this and was really just posting to get my feels out so I didn’t lash out at him because I can see his POV too

Yesterday afternoon/evening we got hit with a wicked storm. Near zero visibility, plows couldn’t get roads cleared fast enough, 20 minute commutes were taking over an hour.

I have a license but no car, my bf has both. We live together. He doesn’t work (rich dad), just sleeps until 3-4pm and plays video games all night after I go to bed. My work is a 20-25 minute drive, mostly highway. We have an agreement that he picks me up from work on Mondays, Wednesdays and Fridays. I take the bus every morning and I bus home on Tuesdays and Thursdays. When I bus home he has dinner ready for me (just something frozen cooked in the oven). It’s 3 different bus lines, takes about 90 minutes. Uber/cab is between $40 and $60.

I’m not allowed my phone while I’m at work, so I get off at 5:30 to a bunch of texts from him about how Maps is estimating 51 mins for him to get to me and how awful it is out there so he isn’t going to come. I was annoyed, but semi-understanding. He seemed apologetic and kept saying “I hope you don’t hate me”.

I stood in blizzard conditions from 5:45 until 6:20 waiting for my first bus (scheduled to be there at 5:58). My legs were numb and covered in ice pellets (which then melted on the heated bus and made me soaking wet). With each connection I grew more and more irritated until I was nothing short of livid. For my last connection I was in the cold from 7:20 to 8:00. I didn’t get home until 8:30. I ran myself a bubble bath, ate leftover pasta while in the bath and then went to bed. It took everything in me to not lose my shit on him for leaving me to commute in a storm. Even this morning as I left for work and he was snuggled up in bed I had to bite my tongue.

Am I the asshole?