Roughly 6 months ago one of my close friends moved to my home country. I am obviously thrilled that I get to spend more time with her, but it has been bothering me that she has never been to my place. Since I have spend quite some time abroad in fully furnished apartments, this is the first time that I really have my own "home" and I feel hurt that she has not put in the effort and meet me here. 

Her place is roughly a 2 hour trip and since she moved here I have visited her almost every other week. I am getting a bit tired of the time and money it is costing me to see her. I know from experience how difficult it can be to settle down in a foreign country, which is why I have been putting in a lot of effort to see her and help her. But after 6 months it should be a bit more even. 

I asked her when she is coming to visit me. She was saying that once her son is settled down a bit more in school, she will take a weekday off and come see me then. She wants to meet on a weekday so she can spend the weekend with her husband and son. While I do have generous leave, I would rather not use it to see her on weekdays to accommodate her preferences. 

She is in a privileged position with childcare. She even has someone come in every Sunday for a few hours so she and her husband can have some time to themselves. I might be the asshole here, because I don't have nor want kids. So I will never understand what it is like to be a mum. But is it really too big of an ask for her to occasionally come and see me on the weekend?