So for my birthday weekend. I’m booking an Airbnb for me and my friends where we have a good time drinking. One of my friends is a dad with a baby. He’s always brought his baby for gatherings with our friend group and we’ve never had a problem. But there were some instances where we had parties that involved alcohol.

I’m naming my friend (the dad) Tommy for privacy reasons. Tommy and his girlfriend would bring their baby to these things, and Tommy would always get drunk. One night was so bad that he threw up on my friends floor and got aggressive with people when they were trying to get him into his car so his girlfriend could drive him. Not only did she had to deal with Tommy, she also had to take care of the baby. It made me question why the baby was even there in the first place.

I feel like it’s basic common sense to not drink that much if you’re bringing your child, hell you shouldn’t even bring your kid in the first place to something like this. So recently I asked Tommy if his girlfriend and his baby were coming to the Airbnb and if they were planning on staying the night, he said yes to both questions.

I then explained to Tommy that his girlfriend and baby can still come to hang out for a bit but we would drink once they leave, I explained to him that since we’re drinking, it wouldn’t be a place to have your baby in. I tried to explain that to him and I even brought up how he was at my friends house that one time. He still could not understand why bringing his baby to something like this is a big deal.

He seemed pretty mad when I explained to him my thoughts. I don’t know, I’m not trying to be an asshole, I just feel like this should just be a guys night where we drink and have fun for my birthday weekend and not have all of us get drunk while there’s a baby in the house. He may not like that opinion, but I feel like since I’m paying for the Airbnb and it’s my birthday and the whole reason we’re doing this is so we can drink together, I should have a say on who comes and who doesn’t.