I got a message from a guy, it was fairly straightforward but also pretty blunt to the point of being rude. I won’t go into detail because it’s an NSFW site and the content of his message was also NSFW. I screenshotted it and sent to my (male) friend, really just to laugh about how so many men think this is a viable approach. I wasn’t really expecting much of a response, kind of like sharing a meme.

He responded by telling me I should send back a message. I said I didn’t want to, it makes me uncomfortable to engage with men like this who seem so aggressive. I worry that I will be harassed, threatened, etc etc. My friend’s response was to type up a response he said I should send. It was way over the top imo.

He wanted me to say:

“Thank you so much for your interest, but I don't generally engage with men who do not have a firm grasp of the basic grammatical and syntactical rules when putting together a message and, more importantly, dress like a bellboy employed to carry bags, open doors, etc. for guests in a cheap and pretentious hotel in a UK seaside town the Germans forgot to bomb down. Have a nice day.”

There is ABSOLUTELY NO WAY I would send this. I am not even entertaining the idea of any response, let alone something like this. When I told my friend I would never send that, he got really annoyed with me. He doesn’t understand that as a woman there is a constant minefield to navigate, and the last thing I want to do is add more danger to my life.

Some men may think I’m overreacting but I’m really curious about the women on here. Am I overreacting in thinking it is - at best - an unnecessary exercise and - at worst - potentially dangerous to respond like that? Am I just being a wimp?