This guy I've been seeing usually takes 3-8 hours to respond to texts. We've been seeing each other for 2 months. He has never been into texting conversationally, which is fine. I am patient and busy myself so I don't mind him not getting right back to me for a few hours, but 8?. I've never dated someone who takes so long to reply.

We've had to do long distance for 6 weeks, so the lack of communication is particularly difficult. I feel disconnected from him. We were able to talk about it and he apologized sincerely. I said if we're going to be a team we need to start communicating like one and he agreed. But nothing changed.

We've been looking for work together as a team (yachting industry) and I feel like I've been doing all the work. I'm the one applying for jobs, coordinating with agents and scheduling interviews. He missed two interviews and we lost the opportunities. One was via zoom, but had to go north to help his dad prepare for the hurricane. I was really frustrated because I felt he could have easily hopped on the call during his drive. I asked him for a couple weeks no contact to clear my head. He was not happy about it.

I texted him I hope he and his father is safe and explained that I wasn't angry he had to go help his dad. That I was frustrated he missed the zoom call which could have lead to a great job for us both. He replied he understood and I wished them well and that they'll be safe. He responded he hoped I stay safe as well.

Last night I saw a job posting and applied for it with our resumes. Early in the afternoon I texted him to let him know and got no reply. I tried calling around 8pm, no answer. I kinda lost it and texted him (yes I regret texting rather than a phone call) I feel like I'm banging my head against a wall. No reply.

Part of me feels like I'm being unfair asking for no communication then breaking it. The other part of me feels like I am still trying to make it work. Maybe I am being a confusing bitch.

Am I over reacting to this situation?