When you do people dirty, and you avoid communication thereafter, you are not protecting your peace, you are just avoiding accountability.

Everyone has been hyper focused on "protecting their own" peace that they forget that part of that is making sure you also protect the peace of other people. How can you sleep at night knowing that you did someone wrong? How can you go on about your day knowing you deliberately, consciously hurt someone who had good intentions? That's not protecting your peace, that's just avoiding accountability because you can't or don't want to own up to your own misgivings.

If you're an adult, be an adult. Don't blame your childhood trauma for your lack of accountability and dont project your trauma onto other people, you have a choice to break the cycle or choose to pass it on to people and the cycle never ends.