I (25) stopped pursuing someone (23 F) who graduated mid-2023 and is still unemployed.

Point is not that she is not being accepted sa mga inaapplyan niya pero she is really not looking for a job, as in no efforts to look for a job and no concrete plans on when she plans to look for a job.

Why is it a big deal? Kasi sa lahat ng dates, ako ang gumagastos at kahit na isang provincial bus ride lang pagitan namin, hindi raw siya makapunta sa amin kasi wala siyang pera/allowance from parents and hindi sila well off and I don't see her drive to look for a job and help herself/her family.

I might sound very condescending pero nasa lower middle class lang din kami at dun ko narealize na I'm better off with someone who isn't striving. Nasa punto na ako ng buhay ko na gusto ko na magsettle down with someone and even if it's painful, we both have to go our separate ways na.

Before anyone comes at me kasi ganito ganyan, I've been guiding/helping her kung saan pwede maghanap ng work at kung papaanong gagawin sa interviews pero wala talaga siyang plano.

Tama nga si Mimiyuuuh na, "Dapat kasi stable ka muna sa sarili mo bago ka magdagdag ng tao sa buhay mo."